Saturday, February 28, 2009

Foster kids

For many years I was a foster parent. I took teenagers because that is what no one seemed to want. Everyone wanted babies and little kids. I was a foster parent for about7-8 years and in that time I probably had 50 kids in my home.

Sometimes we had a few, sometimes we had 7 or 8, sometimes teen Mom's with babies. We had drug addicts, gang bangers, alcoholics, sexually, and physically abused kids. We took anyone that needed a home.

I am a fairly naive person, never did drugs, I don't drink. I was raised in a well to do neighborhood in orange County, CA- so I saw and heard things that blew me away. I learned things that shocked me- but I accepted all the kids. I treated them as my own, I loved them, took care of them, covered for them, whatever it took.

We had children that at 14 had never had cupcakes brought to school for their birthday- so I arranged birthday class parties in middle school. This was before cell phones, and we got beepers for all the kids. We bought them their first cars, took them to Disneyland- we loved them and just treated them like normal kids.

I adopted one of them. She had been in 17 homes, she was a very difficult child- we got her at 12. She was angry, on drugs, and so damaged- but she learned to love us and she wanted to be a part of our family forever- she needed that- so I adopted her at 16 years old. I was able to give her a forever family. She is still pretty badly damaged, but she is a good kid- and she is a survivor.

Some I got closer to then others. It seemed like the girls were very close to me. When I had the twins I decided that I could not be the kind of foster Mom I wanted to anymore because I was tied down to two babies- so I stopped doing it. The last of my kids were old enough to go out on their own and it was time for me to focus in a different direction.

I know you are wondering where this is going... well tonight out of the blue one of my kids called me. She was one of my special one's. I was so glad to hear from her. She is 27 now and has 2 kids- that blows me away. She sounds happy and I can't wait to go see her and meet her daughter's. She said she has missed me and that I made a huge impact in her life- that is great to hear. It has been about 10 years since I talked to her. She tracked me down over the Internet and I am so glad she did. I am glad I was there for her during a time in her life when she needed a Mom. She is drug free, and has it all together and that makes me proud. I would love her anyway- but I am glad she is doing well.

I just wanted to share my exciting news.


  1. This is one of the many reasons I love you baby. You are such a wonderful woman.

    I love you baby so much, YAMWAILY

  2. Wow I bet that was such a great feeling.

  3. WOW! That's amazing! I'm sooo happy for you!! You're a wonderful person

  4. its amazing, i hope every now and then you stop, and really look at the changes you have made in their young lives. Sometimes while we are doing things, we dont really see it, but then, after a while, to get a phone call you got, you really made a difference. What a great story.

  5. What a beautiful thing! How many lives your love has touched, mama.

  6. That is just amazing! you are amazing!